14 DAY TRIAL // Cheryl Cole of the Girls Aloud was, for a while, the woman with whom many others would have traded places: her career was going strong, she was appreciated in more than one field (music, that is) and had just married the man of her dreams, footballer Ashley Cole. Then, the allegations of cheating began. The two are still together, but that moment made Cheryl realize one very important thing, namely that no relationship was perfect, as she says in the latest issue of Elle magazine.
The scandal erupted after less than two years of marriage, when two women went to the media to say that they had affairs with Ashley. Initially, Cheryl removed her wedding ring and went away with her friends for a while. When she came back, though, she reconciled with her husband. It’s not because she’s stupid that she did that, she now tells Elle magazine, but rather because she realized that no relationship was perfect and obstacles were bound to appear. What makes a marriage good is learning how to work all problems out.
“That’s why it’s called a fairy tale isn’t it? It’s not real. Love is real and the feelings of love are real. But the thought that everything is going to be rosy and there’s never going to obstacles that come in your way, that there is never going to be any testing in life, I’d hate that. […] I know from a perspective how it looks but it's not like that. And I’m not a stupid girl. I’m not one of those girls who can’t see things for what they are. I’ve been out with idiots in the past. Ashley’s such a nice guy. I still get the butterflies. Even when he rings my phone I get that thing.” Cheryl says for the mag.
Still, something may have been lost in the media scandal, the singer hints next. When asked who she trusts the most, she does not say Ashley, but her parents and, oddly enough, her dogs. That’s not to say, though, that she is not happy with what she has right now. On the contrary, she explains, if she were to lose everything come tomorrow, she would still be happy if she could still have her family, friends, and her husband, with whom she wants to have children as soon as possible.
“I can’t wait to have children. Even if all this went tomorrow and I just had my family and my kids and my husband and my parents, I’m happy. […] I think marriages are something you have to work at. Marriages are not rose-petaled paths that you skip down, they were never intended to be. It’s not supposed to be easy, it’s not supposed to be perfect.” Cheryl Cole further says for Elle.