14 DAY TRIAL // It’s no longer a secret that women can hardly stand to be in the presence of another lady, let alone befriend her and be able to be nice to her without stabbing her when she’s not looking. Friendship between women has come to mean nothing today, and it’s ladies themselves who are paying the price for it, even if they can’t tell right now, authors Andrea Lavinthal, Jessica Rozler, Tamara A. Johnson-George and Katrina R. Chambers point out.
Society is changing, and has been for the past decades in what concerns women and their active role in it. It is precisely that, the authors say, that makes them turn against each other, often forgetting that there’s plenty of room for all at the top. What’s even worse is that they’re not playing with all the cards on the table, and choose to turn frenemies instead of openly voicing their dislike of another woman.
A frenemy is, as it’s known, an enemy who poses as a friend. You know a frenemy by the stiletto she thrusts in another woman’s back whenever this one isn’t looking, Andrea Lavinthal and Jessica Rozler underline in the newly released “Friend Or Frenemy? A Guide To The Friends You Need And The Ones You Don’t.” A frenemy is also that “friend” who always says stuff like “You look tired,” “You’re going to eat all that?” “Your ex-boyfriend’s new girlfriend is soooooo pretty” just to bring you down. In a world where women need their girlfriends more than anything, the number of frenemies is constantly increasing.
“These days nothing is quite the same. You’ve got yourself 1,214 friends on Facebook, five of whom you’ve actually met in person. With the click of a mouse, you can befriend and break up, hook up and make up, all without having to leave the warm glow of your computer screen and do something unthinkable like interact with a real, live human being.” Lavinthal and Rozler explain in relation to the little communication, genuine communication, we still engage in today.
Johnson-George and Chambers introduce in “Player HateHer, How To Avoid The Beat Down And Live In A Drama-Free World” the term Player HateHer, meant to refer to all women who hate others just because they exist, a tendency that is also on the rise especially among female co-workers. It’s at the workplace that ladies completely forget even the faintest trace of the concept of sisterhood, and start acting like genuine cavewomen – but only with each other. “On your way up the ladder of success, don’t forget to turn around and reach out a helping hand to other women on their way up. There’s room for us all at the top.” the authors advise as the best way to make things right again.