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September 4th, 2007, 18:06 GMT · By Stefan Anitei

What Do Men Look For in Women?

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"I want her to be intelligent, cultivated, well mannered..." Who the heck believes all this crap, when the first things a man sees when he looks at a woman are boobs, legs and butt?

Even if we proudly call ourselves "Homo sapiens" ("Wise people"), we still behave like chimps when it comes to choosing a mate. At least this is the case with men.

A new research made at Indiana University by a team led by cognitive scientist Peter Todd found that even if men, to be politically correct claim otherwise, beauty is the
main factor while women, much choosier, take care of their looks for security and commitment.

"This formula has served humans throughout time, with the model of choosy females reflected in most mammals," the team wrote.

"Evolutionary theories in psychology suggest that men and women should trade off different traits in each other, and when we look at the actual mate choices people make, this is what we find evidence for. Ancestral individuals who made their mate choices in this way -- women trading off their attractiveness for higher quality men and men looking for any attractive women who will accept them -- would have had an evolutionary advantage in greater numbers of successful offspring." said Todd.

The research was based on a speed-dating session in Germany, involving 46 subjects. Speed dating means sessions in which men and women participate in 3-5 minutes "mini dates" with up to 30 different people. The participants would point after that in a box on a card which possible partners they would like to see again.

They are a "microcosm where mate choices are made sequentially in a faster and more formalized fashion than in daily life." the researchers noted.

The subjects had to complete before a questionnaire revealing their ideal mate according to factors like physical attractiveness, present and future financial status, health and parenting qualities.

"Not surprisingly, participants stated they wanted to find someone who was like themselves -- a socially acceptable answer. But once the sessions began, the men sought the more attractive women and the women were drawn to material wealth and security, setting their standards according to how attractive they viewed themselves. Furthermore, while men on average wanted to see every second woman again, the women wanted to meet only a third of the men again." said Todd.

"Speed dating ... only captures the initial stage of the extended process involved in long-term mate choice. But that initial expression of interest is crucial for launching everything else." Todd added.
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Comment #1 by: sandra on 08 Oct 2008, 11:56 UTC reply to this comment

I am 38 yrs old.I am still single and struggling to find my mate but i still have great difficulty.The men i go out with just dont stick around that long.They are critical and abusive to me.However in the beginning everything seems perfect then after awile the relationship starts to breakdown/My conclusion on all this is men deep down inside will never admit they want the perfect woman.I believe he looks for youth independancebeauty everything.We all arent cut out biologically that way and it is unfair.We as women are unfotunately minorities in society.We have to be perfect at all times or he will start looking elsewhere!I know i am living it.I have struggled for these answers all my life and after studying men closely and read articles on what men want this has been my conclution.We have to stay young and beautiful and active as well as sexy and convenient.For most men,not all but most the moment a women looses sex appeal he starts looking elsewhere.We must be perfect at all times or we dont fit the bill.Why i ask?I have been looking all my life and today i have recently become ill my boyfriend began loosing interest.I would here how i am letting myself go how my hair insnt coiffed or he would gawk at the women in the neighborhood going by.As i would get upset hed reply i want to see a set of long legs in heels and you dont dress this way.Hed make remarks on my hands and nails or my body at times and call me a pig!and that i would always be a pig!hed say i am and will always be a fat ugly pig!Today through all this i have become sooo overwhelmed and incredibly insecure i joined a gym.and have scheduled a recent appointment to have plastic surgery!Is this what its come to?society?As i admit i am a dramatic over the chart case yes,thats what it is and what it comes down to.Even and however men will never admit it.They want young healthy functional ,intelligent,tigers in bed,gourmet cooks,sexy women.Thats why most of them go to strip bars.As one man told me they go there as a fantasy.Their wives dont dress like that or look like that at home so in essence its an escape ,a fantasy.This is my personal opininon.sincerely sandra l.


Comment #2 by: Van on 25 Feb 2009, 12:50 UTC reply to this comment

Hello to Sandra,

Just love you! YOu are a beautiful creation of God and He has someone especially for you. I believe that. He will give you your heart's desire so please don't worry. The mate that is waiting for you will love you for being "YOU.' I don't want to come off as being too preachy, but make sure that you are happy in yourself,and God will supply the rest. You were made special. The boyfriend that you are with needs to be kicked to the curb. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself and don't take that verbal abuse. YOu are much better than that.


Comment #3 by: Van on 25 Feb 2009, 12:51 UTC reply to this comment

Hello to Sandra,

Just love you! YOu are a beautiful creation of God and He has someone especially for you. I believe that. He will give you your heart's desire so please don't worry. The mate that is waiting for you will love you for being "YOU.' I don't want to come off as being too preachy, but make sure that you are happy in yourself,and God will supply the rest. You were made special. The boyfriend that you are with needs to be kicked to the curb. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about yourself and don't take that verbal abuse. YOu are much better than that.

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