Transgender 6-Year-Old Barred from Girl's Restroom, Parents Fight Decision
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The Colorado Civil Rights Division has received a complaint from the parents of 6-year-old Coy Mathis about their transgender son, who wishes to become a girl, being denied access to the girls' restroom.
After the student was barred from the restroom at an elementary institution in Fountain, Colorado, they pulled him out of school. The incident occurred in December 2011, Mercury News
Fountain-Fort Carson School District 8 administrators decided to stop him from using the restroom out of concern for the other female students using the same bathroom.
The school's attorney, Wm. Kelly Dude, mentions that they are taking into account “not only Coy, but other students in the building, their parents and the future impact” that being exposed to male body parts will have on the girls at the school.
“Coy attends class as all other students, is permitted to wear girls' clothes and is referred to as the parents have requested. [...] We want Coy to have the same educational opportunities as every other Colorado student.
“Her school should not be singling her out for mistreatment just because she is transgender,” Mathis responds.
Coy's mother Kathryn Mathis tells ABC News
that, from an early age, her son would get “depressed and anxious” for being treated as a boy.
“We started noticing, when Coy was about 18 months, as soon as she could express herself, that she was really expressing that she was a girl,” she says.
She argues that the school's decision will harm her child and set him apart from other students, eventually turning him into a victim of bullying.
“It sets her up for future harassing and bullying, and creates an unsafe environment. The school has a wonderful opportunity to teach students that differences are OK, and we should embrace their differences, instead of teaching them to discriminate against someone who is a little different,” she adds.
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|Comment #1 by: William on 28 Feb 2013, 12:57 UTC|| reply to this comment|
This is rediculous, a 6 year old not "identifying as a male"? That child needs therapy not a female bathroom. When I was growing up, I would be punished if I wore a dress to school as a boy.
|Comment #1.1 by: One mind on 08 Mar 2013, 15:13 GMT|
Did anyone stop to ask...Why is he not identifying as a male? Start there then you may get some answers, but dressing him as a girl is not one of them.
|Comment #2 by: unpcmale on 28 Feb 2013, 13:40 UTC|| reply to this comment|
If HE has a penis he should use the boys room. Sounds like the Mother might be culpable in the boy's confusion. And why must EVERYBODY else make concessions every time some whack job has an issue? Why is this woman trying to force her opinion and beliefs on everyone else? And, maybe a sociologist or psychologist could help me out here, but seems I remember something about babies are basically sexless (mentally) until 3 or 4 years old.
|Comment #3 by: confused on 28 Feb 2013, 13:47 UTC|| reply to this comment|
I was born to poverty, but I identify with the wealthy. Who do I see about that?
|Comment #4 by: mskim on 28 Feb 2013, 14:49 UTC|| reply to this comment|
I believe that that the parents and the child are on the right path. there should be a bathroom available to the young lady, and it should be required by law. I grew up in the 50's and lived a life of hell because of society's limited visions. hang in there little one, I am in full support of you, I ended up in an institution because people thought I was emotionally sick because I wanted to be a girl, I thank you and your parents
|Comment #4.1 by: mmateo on 28 Feb 2013, 19:17 GMT|
He is being denied access to the GIRLS bathroom because HE IS A BOY!!!!!!! He is not being discriminated against....HE CAN USE THE BOYS BATHROOM!!! I a male can not walk into a womans bathroom and sue the owner when every woman in there attacks me calls the police. These parents are idiots for dressing there 6yr old up like a girl and should be institutionalized. Good on the school. NO SCHOOL HAS A UNISEX BATHROOM
|Comment #4.2 by: meldyoudope on 28 Feb 2013, 23:08 GMT|
|Comment #4.3 by: hadenuff on 17 Apr 2013, 13:36 GMT|
This is a boy, not a girl.....HIS parents need seek professional help, not the child. I agree, this is not a school of one, there are other kids to consider. I wonder if HIS parents have ever thought that they could possiblly be doing more harm than good...maybe HE will grow out of this, but setting HIM up for the bullying that comes next is stupid! Kids are mean,....try to teach HIM to fit-in...theres plenty of time for HIM to discover who HE will be sexually.
|Comment #5 by: mws on 28 Feb 2013, 16:22 UTC|| reply to this comment|
The school sounds backwards. At least this trangendered child knows what she is and she has parents that support her. Just because she has a penis does not mean she is 100% male. I hope that she will avoid a life time of bullying by becoming a physical female at an early age. Hats off to her parents for being so understanding and loving thier daughter no matter what. Forcing someone to be a boy when every fiber of thier being is female would be like forcing a normal boy to wear dresses. He would hate it. To be born in the right body is a great gift. But we now know that gender doesn't always match up 100%. Don't stand in the way of someone elses happiness. They have the right to pursue it.
|Comment #5.1 by: Ga girl on 08 Mar 2013, 14:56 GMT|
The school is not backwards, these parents need to remember this is not a school of 1! Other parents have their kids there as well, what about those parents? If you want to live your life as a girl and you were born a boy, you do not have to attend PUBLIC school, there are other alternatives: home school or private school
|Comment #6 by: Chester on 28 Feb 2013, 16:36 UTC|| reply to this comment|
The kid is 6...a 6 year old cannot make a rational decision on what gender they want to be they still * the bed and watch cartoons. When i was 6 i wanted to be a friggin Dinosaur. The parents have some serious issues and their son is going to be severly emotionally scared because of this, how the hell at 18 months of age do you tell if your male child is acting like a girl..... This boggles my mind and they should be charged with child abuse for this, they obviously had their heart set on having a girl and decided at 18 months....18 months that hey our sons acting like a woman (iono how youd notice that) lets dress him like one and tell him hes one. Plain and simple these parents are sick in the head and child welfare should be involved.
|Comment #7 by: Rob on 28 Feb 2013, 16:44 UTC|| reply to this comment|
18 months of age expressing himself as a girl, all i can say is Wow! sorry kid, enjoy the next 10 years of your school life getting made fun of and possibly beat up because your parents thought you were a woman and told you that you were one, hope they got deep pockets for all your therapy bills you are going to need it. Really do feel bad for this kid...
|Comment #8 by: meldyoudope on 28 Feb 2013, 23:07 UTC|| reply to this comment|
Two things of import here---
The parents of this child are pushing this issue. And by doing so are actually harming the child.
Secondly, and most important----all the other children in the school should not be forced to participate in this sham. They have rights too and a big one is to not be forced to deal with issues which they are not really equipped to understand at such an early age.
The school district is absolutely right in this matter. The parents who claim their child is transgender need to make other accommodations to help their child. The mother's statement makes it clear that her only concern is for her child and not the sensibilities of all the other children and parents.
|Comment #8.1 by: Ga girl on 08 Mar 2013, 14:54 GMT|
I agree, they have to keep the rights of ALL students in perspective. If this is part of their policy, and the parent knew this before she started the process of changing her son from a boy to a girl...what is she fighting for?
|Comment #9 by: Brenda on 01 Mar 2013, 00:39 UTC|| reply to this comment|
How in the world does a 6 year old boy know that he wants to be a girl? I think that the school made the right decision and I also think that the parents wanted a girl and they have him programmed that way. This is all the parents fault, a six year old does not know what they want! Wake up people you are setting your child up for a world of heartache, disappointment and anguish. SHAME ON YOU!
|Comment #10 by: littlemo on 01 Mar 2013, 01:17 UTC|| reply to this comment|
Just because you are different you should not
be singled out. Bathroom facilities have doors
on them so advise child to keep door closed.
End of discussion !!!
|Comment #10.1 by: One mind on 08 Mar 2013, 15:21 GMT|
The thing is...being different doesn't have anything to do with doors because as an adult I would not want to walk out of a stall and see a man standing in the ladies restroom. School hasn't changed...our parenting techniques have changed. Why should the school change to fit your parenting style? Until this child undergoes some kind of surgery...HE IS A BOY!!!
|Comment #11 by: Caribbean_Woman on 05 Mar 2013, 14:07 UTC|| reply to this comment|
Only in America!!! There is no way a child at such a tender age could have me AS A PARENT pretending with them to be what he or she is not! you're a girl, you're a boy! act accordingly! These things are not normal! you correct children from a young age, rather than playing along with these nonsense. Gimme a break! As adults we need to be just that! and stop playing house!
|Comment #12 by: Ga girl on 08 Mar 2013, 14:52 UTC|| reply to this comment|
The parents are so worried about him being a victim of bullying, not because he is being singled out by his peers, but because they are pushing him into the limelight that should never have been turned on. Yes we love our children, but we don't rearrange someone else's whole life nor theirs to make them believe something just because they say it. Come on 6 years old...he doesn't know the REAL difference between a boy and a girl except they use different bathrooms. Sorry to say, but this really is NOT about the child, this is some sick parent trying to get their 15 minutes of fame. If this is really about her son, she needs to also keep in mind that there are 20 other children in the classroom who are also being forced to live life the way she thinks they should. What about the parents who don't want their children exposed to this kind of knowledge at such an early age? What about their rights? Those students also have a right not to share a bathroom with someone who is not of the same gender.
|Comment #13 by: Maryann on 17 Apr 2013, 13:57 UTC|| reply to this comment|
The parents are nuts, looking to make some money from a lawsuit. An 18 month old crying about his gender? What??? Babies don't understand gender! This poor kid needs some good parents who will help him. He is a boy; no matter what you do to him, how you mutilate him, he will always have XY chromosomes. Better to treat him as God created him and get him counseling if necessary. This is very sad.
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