Parents Shame Daughter for Sneaking Boys In, Make Her Wear Sign

I agree with his effort...
As a parent it is our responsibility to keep our children on the path.
Each parent's approach may be different, however it's their INTENT which is most important.
As parents we should never abdicate our responsibility , nor should we foist it on others (Police, Society) if we can be proactive in correcting behavior.
Surely we all know our children will learn fundamental lessons at home easier that in the so-called streets.
Support this man..

And another thing....
Should we really be concerned about Jasmine's reaction? Must we be nice in our disciplining? as far as I am concerned, if it has the desired effect..then let's add it to our options. This may be a tame , measured approach which is appropriate for her. Let's hear from some other CONSTRUCTIVE approaches.

Girls who behave this way often feel unloved and devalued by their fathers. This father needs to see a professional about his attitude toward fatherhood. This is not love; especially for a child at this age where privacy is paramount. Jasmine's behavior will likely get worse as she acts out against a nonbiological parent whom she feels does not love her.
I speak from both clinical (I am a physician) and parenting (I have a teenage daughter) experience.
I hope that if Jasmine reads this she realizes that what her father has done is simply tell the world that he is a failure as a father and that she is not a bad person, but someone who may be lost at the moment.

THIS IS not wrong. She is 15 i agree and disagree about this girl having privacy, but when you start sneaking kids in the middle of the night is way beyond disrespecting the household rules. If she is doing this at this age imagine what she will do when she keeps on growing(Drugs,sex,etc..heck maybe ax their parents in their sleep). Apparently you are not a good role model or parent.

Girls who behave this way often feel unloved and devalued by their fathers. They have low self esteem and seek male attention inappropriately. These parents, especially the stepfather, are clearly ignorant and have not sought professional help. This child is also at an age when privacy is paramount, thus this "shaming" will cause post-traumatic stress disorder in this child. This father needs to see a professional about his attitude about fatherhood. They are causing more damage and Jasmine's behavior is likely to escalate. I speak as a clinician (I am a physician) and a parent of a teenage daughter. I agree with Jasmine that this is "not love." By her comments I think she realizes that the world sees this sign only as admission of a dysfunctional family and a father, in particular, who does not love his daughter. Hang in there, Jasmine. Try to feel good about achievements in school, on the athletic field and with true friends.

Robbie you are wrong.Jasmine has already crossed the line with her behavior. Her Father and mother are right to discipline their daughter. I applaud them for thinking outside the box. Their tough love will not be appreciated by a 15 year old. But one day(maybe when she has her own children) she will see they were right.

Robbie,

You may be a physician but that does not make you a parental expert. You do not know the father or the child so for you to jump to these conclusions is quite irresponsible. Some kids (no matter how much love and attention you give them) will rebel and do things that simply drive you crazy. However, I do agree that this punishment is probably not appropriate but all parents (to include you) have made mistakes. I think the father had the right intention but let his anger get the better of him and ended up demeaning her in the process. There are other ways to discipline her without humiliating her. Yet, discipline is not meant to be nice but to correct behavior and to show that there are consequences for your actions. Your job as a parent is not to be your child's friend but to love them, teach them, and guide them to prepare them to become responsible, functioning adults in society. Discipline is a part of all of that. Discipline is rooted in love because you do not want your children to continue to commit acts that will only bring them more harm and pain later on. With discipline, you are trying to teach them and guide them in the right direction. It is easy to be condescending and judgmental when you are on the outside looking in. However, neither your clinical experience nor your parental experience gives you the right to make these snap judgments--and they are snap judgments.

Anyone doing that to their daughter does not do it out of 'love'. An action like this comes from spite, hate and revenge. if the girl is sneaking in boys, she's desperate for affection, which she is unlikely to get from her very probably narcissistic or psychopath parents. The authorities should be examining this case as this is child abuse.

Anyone doing that to their daughter does not do it out of 'love'. An action like this comes from spite, hate and revenge. if the girl is sneaking in boys, she's desperate for affection, which she is unlikely to get from her very probably narcissistic or psychopath parents. The authorities should be examining this case as this is child abuse.

Great punishment...if you hate your kid. The poor girl is obviously traumatized by whats happening. I'm not saying she isn't a "difficult" child, but if this is a taste of the kind of discipline the parents employ... then no wonder she rebels.

Whole story makes me very sad - and very grateful for my own parents.

Well in other countries, the girl would have been poured acid on and left to die slowly. This is nothing.

That is a very enlightened view of the world!

Worst parenting ever. Guess what Mike and Melinda? This is what teenage girls do, they sneak boys in and try alcohol for the first time and skip school (gasp!). I know, because I did it and at a much earlier age than this young girl. If you want to get through to your teens, maybe you should try talking to her like an adult. Maybe tell her the boys she brings over need to use the front door and can only stay over until "said time." By the way, this is absolutely a form of bullying. I wonder how her parents would feel if maybe the boy she snuck in forced Jasmine to hold this sign? Or if her teacher did?

Just 3 more years Jasmine and then you're free! Hang in there, girl!

What I found most disturbing about this, is that they seem almost 'eager' to punish her more, even mapping out disturbing things such as shaving her head, and doing this in front of her school? Hope someone reaches out to this young lady. This is abuse.

Good for them. She is screwing up her life and they are trying to stop it. Parents are NOT supposed to be friends. We're shaping positive, balanced people that will live among us.

I do not think this is the right way to discipline a child. I have seen parents do this (via the web) when their kid shoplifts; for THAT particular case, I think the idea is a good one. I makes the kid realize that thieves and criminals are outcast of society. However, for THIS case...I shake my head. That girl obviously already doesn't feel loved enough (she's trying to get affection anywhere she can get it); and I saw a video of her being interviewed by a reporter and she said "This isn't love. How the hell can you call this love!?". All her parents are doing is portraying their adolescent daughter as a * in front of the whole town (now with the coverage, perhaps country!). I think this makes THEM look like the losers.

Ok, I grew up in a loving home. A wonderful, loving father and a kind, gentle, attentive mom. They never really hit me (punishment was always taking things away or restricting privledges), we had tons of family time, and we attended Church every Sunday. But I was a NIGHTMARE during my teen years. I was a smart mouthed brat who snuck around behind my parents back seeing boys and drinking with my friends. My parents (luckily for me, unlucky for them) never found out until years later how bad I really wad, when I confessed some of my wild behavior to them when I was in my mid-20s. That being said...sometimes teens just do bad things to rebel. It has nothing to do with parents who don't care (Lord knows I have 2 of the most loving, caring parents on the face of the planet and I still did bad things.) Hormones, trying to find your identity, the stesses of school and friends lead to teens acting out. So if these parents want to use a shame punishment to try to get through to a rebellious child, more power to them. I stand behind them.

KUDOS to these parents. It's called DISCIPLINE for a reason. When people stop trying to be friends and start being PARENTS our children will stop running amuck!! This is not extreme it is befitting the child's transgression.