14 DAY TRIAL // If we take a quick look at the celebrity world, we can find out that the most successful famous couples around the world have met a real challenge after they bound their destinies in marriage. And everyone says that no one could have predicted the gloomy outcome. Yet, scientists believe that the success of a marriage can be predicted by keeping in mind a few simple things.
Penn State University distinguished professor of sociology, human development, and demography Alan Booth explains that “A happy marriage depends less on the aim of Cupid's arrow, and more on those mundane day-to-day elements no one finds particularly romantic. It's a bad idea to marry during that early, idealized period.” He adds that the early days of a relationship can be truly misleading, especially when people start getting that feeling that they cannot leave without each other.
He draws attention to the fact that a significantly higher rate of divorces is registered in the third year of marriage, as opposed to any other one. Maybe this happens on account of the fact that men and women marry even before they get to know each other properly, and do not share a relationship based on mutual trust and respect.
“Even though they're living together, a couple can still see themselves as in a temporary relationship,” he maintains. And for some couples, such as those who live together for a long time before marrying, mostly due to financial reasons, it's very easy to disregard problems that might affect their union. The bad part about this is that those issues do not simply go away, but get carried into the marriage, when they can really show their ugly head and cause severe domestic disputes and even divorces.
There is also another thing that most marriages are likely to suffer from, and that is the way in which partners innately deal with problems. While women are more inclined to fight and then to resolve disputes, men tend to remain calm, but refuse to talk about the most serious issues. In most long-lasting marriages, this is settled by pacts between the spouses, setting the record straight even before the ceremony.